A Time To Celebrate
Thursday, February 11, 2010
On Sunday, Valentine’s Day, my youngest daughter will turn ten. It is hard to believe. Where have those seven years gone? I remember well that day on February 8, 2000 when we arrived home from
Yes, my dimpled charmer, will soon be ten. She has experienced so much in her short life. For the first few months she used to awaken at night screaming in terror. She battled so many fears one of which was the fear that someone would come to snatch her away. I held her in my arms for hours trying to reassure her that she was home but it took a long time for her to rest in that assurance. Policemen scared her. Loud sounds scared her. And thoughts of being taken away from Mommy scared her.
Many problems adopted children experience have nothing to do with being adopted. For example a shy child who struggles in school isn’t necessarily experiencing an adoption issue. But a child recently adopted who screams out in the night is experiencing an adoption issues.
Sometimes parents who have adopted are so thrilled to have their adopted child that they fail to discipline a child. But if any parent lets a child rule the household that parent is in for big trouble. Parents need to discipline their child appropriately always working to communicate expectations and love.
So it is important as parents to recognize what is a problem and whether it is related to adoption or not. What do you do if you think your child has a problem related to their adoption? Speak with your family doctor or pediatrician. Consult with a counselor or coach familiar with adoption issues. I can be reached at 540-825-1134.
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