Bonding - One Memory At A Time
Thursday, January 14, 2010
Anyone involved with adoption is familiar with the emphasis on bonding. Adopted children frequently come to us with attachment issues. Parents are wise to not only be on the lookout for these issues but also to intentionally parent with establishing a healthy bond in mind.
In our day and age of microwave fixes it is too easy to buy a book about bonding, do a few things and assume that all is corrected. Unfortunately a child with bonding issues is not easily fixed. It takes time and treatment to heal that wound. In addition parents who struggle with their own attachment issues as a result of poor parenting will need help themselves to develop a healthy bond.
Knowing this we must not only get professional help from someone with experience in adoption issues. We must also relax and develop a realistic perspective. This will take time. It takes many, many bonding moments to develop a healthy parent child bond.
So what can you do? Continue to create those meaningful bonding moments. And if you have any questions please call me at 540-825-1134. A healthy bond reaps rich dividends.
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