Knowing Your Child
Monday, June 22, 2009
It can not be said enough. Knowing adopted your child, knowing their heart, must come before focusing on their behavior. It is all too easy to allow the behavior to hook us into actions, consequences, etc. By doing that we might easily miss the heart of our child and forfeit another opportunity to build a stronger relationship.
Knowing the heart of your child must be done intentionally and consistently. It takes time. Build frequent one on one times with your child. Sometimes just a trip in the car to do an errand can be transformed into a special bonding time. Meal times also can be used to promote discussions revealing the heart of your child. Playing together gives your child an opportunity in a playful context to relate with their parents/
For me, knowing my child (children) takes studying him/her diligently. Children are all different. They have their own unique personality. The wonder grows as we spend time to grow deeper into know them, appreciating their developmental stage and also the context of that child within the whole family system.
Spend time intentionally focusing on knowing your adopted child. It will make all the difference in your parenting.
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