Raising Confident Kids
Wednesday, May 6, 2009
The story is told of a wise man who trained horses by building relationships with them. Day after day the man spoke with the horses individually and developed a special closeness with each one. He not only stroked the horses gently but also stretched out on them allowing the horses to get very comfortable with him. Ah, it was beautiful to see how they grew to trust the beloved Master. Sometimes the wise trainer would even allow a distraction or loud sound to occur in order to teach the horses to be calm and focused on him no matter what.
As a parent it is very important to teach our children to grow confident and secure. Life challenges us on every front. Financial struggles, health difficulties, grief and loss, school challenges – all kinds of things are threatening today’s families. Like the wise Master who knew his horses, we must continue to build strong relationships with our children one day at a time. Time spent together, focused attention, listening to the hearts of our children, and building many memories create secure bonds of love which hold our children steady through all the ups and downs of life.
The horse liked to keep his eye on the Master. Our children learn to keep their eyes on the parent who has worked to build the loving relationship. Adopted children came to us as a result of a loss of some kind. It takes the wisdom of a ‘Master’ parent to day by day build a trusting relationship which their child can depend on throughout their life. This is not always easy. It often takes alot of work.Many days might go by before you see even a glimmer of a bond growing but it is well worth the effort.
You might want to speak with a coach, someone who has worked with adopted children. If so, please give me a call at 540-825-1134.I would be glad to speak with you. May this week be an exciting week of relationship building for you and your family.
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